As we move through life we are always evolving, shedding the old and embracing the new. Sometimes change is forced upon us. It may not be welcome. It may not be wanted. It may not be what you’d have chosen. But nevertheless change is inevitable. It’s life and no one is immune, especially at mid-life where we find ourselves at a significant turning point. Having to navigate our way forwards when so much is in flux in our minds, bodies and souls.
The wake up calls are plenty with health scares, job losses, financial worries, relationship breakdowns, caring for loved ones and grief, loss and bereavement everything and anything comes knocking on our door.
Yes as you reach mid-life everything can feel pretty overwhelming and you’re left adrift unsure what will come next or what to do for the best. Mentally and physically exhausted, life weary merely getting through the day as you lose sight of your hopes, dreams and yourself. Especially yourself.
As I too move through this transitional phase of my own life I am having many conversations with friends and loved ones, especially around menopause and retirement both life awakening transitions that require careful consideration, patience and plenty of healing.
We’re shedding old identities that no longer fit. Making decisions on what is no longer worthy of our precious time and energy or what we’re willing to accept and what we are absolutely done with. We really aren’t the same people we once were. We are different, changed on the cusp of transformation as we welcome in the new and grieve the old.
Instead of wanting more we want less. Simplicity. Slowness. Sanctuary.
Instead of hustle we want our freedom. Freedom to choose, roam and wander free from obligations and external expectations.
Instead of hurrying we want slow days and moments to be present. With ourselves and our loved ones.
There is no doubt that when you hear the call from deep within this becomes a beautiful time to get to know yourself better on a whole other level. There is no ignoring or denying ourselves any longer. Things have to change, but what and how?
When do you say enough is enough?
How do you know what you truly want?
How do you connect back in with yourself if you’ve lost sight of everything?
Intuition is our compass, but you may not have been taught to use your compass.
When you’re stressed and life busy it can be tricky to connect with your intuition and inner wisdom. Drowned out by a monkey mind and external chatter you simply cannot hear yourself think. We have to make multiple decisions on a daily basis, some are easy and some are crippling stopping us in our tracks.
From a young age we have been programmed to ignore our intuition and choose logic over instincts. Facts over insights. Always following the crowd instead of doing what feels right to us.
And if we repeatedly ignore our more intuitive insights we lose our compass, our internal navigation system that is constantly guiding us forwards. We stop trusting ourselves and our own judgement which instinctively knows what is best for us.
If past conditioning sits firmly in your mind, along with outdated beliefs that are way past their sell by date, they will all be having an impact on your emotions, feelings, behaviours and actions until you choose to pay attention and decide to break the cycle.
So if you find yourself at a crossroads or feel completely disconnected from yourself gift yourself some space and time for stillness, for healing and to just be with yourself and your thoughts and feelings.
You cannot move forwards if you don’t recognise where you are right now.
This is a daily practice, to establish pockets of time in your day to stop whatever it is you’re doing and be still. Even for five minutes.
Slow life down for a moment.
Come back to your breath.
Come back to your body.
Come back to yourself.
Make this time non-negotiable.
Because underneath the layers of noise and busyness you’ll unearth your inner voice, wisdom and compass.
When you’re still and quiet pay attention to what is said.
If you need guidance ask for it “Please show me the way my soul wants me to go”.
Choose to listen to the nudges of your soul’s wisdom, no matter how subtle or quiet, even if they make absolutely no sense in the moment.
This is your guidance moment to moment.
This is your inner compass leading the way.
This is how you calm down a frazzled nervous system and find some peace. Even if it is short lived.
Keep practicing and prioritising yourself.
It becomes easier the more you practice.
Needing answers – Ask for what you need.
Ask for healing, clarity, peace and wisdom.
Ask for abundance.
Ask for guidance, creativity, light and love.
Don’t be timid in your prayers or requests.
Be bold, be positive and gracious.
As everything you’re asking for is making its way to you.
And so it is.
When you know you JUST KNOW
And when you receive your answer and guidance, trust your inner knowing.
Don’t doubt, question or deliberate any longer.
You don’t need to think some more. Or talk about it endlessly. Or ask for others opinions that you don’t need.
The decision is made.
Then you act accordingly.
Allow things to change and unfold in good divine time.
The answers you seek lie in your inner sanctuary. The inner journey and contemplation shapes the path ahead. We may believe that the answers we seek are always outside of ourselves, that someone else makes the choice or holds the key to our lives and future happiness.
They don’t, you do.
Always come back to you.
Opening up to a trusted person can bring light to all situations
Sometimes you need some time just for you. To share your innermost thoughts and challenges with someone who will listen without judgement and gently guide you forwards, so that you can see an alternative perspective and give you the space and a sanctuary for you to hear yourself think and feel into what action you truly want to take in life. Need more support coming back to yourself, take a look at the 1-1 Soul-to-Soul Sessions, available online now.